Agree on all ends. I wish everyone who lived in America had at least one close, honest trans person in their lives (even better if they have loved them). The thing I admire most about my child's coming out as trans is how incredibly genuine and ethical it was. Our mutual respect heightened, and we were spared potential decades of not truly knowing one another (and for her alone, the agony of hiding/lying). On the unrelenting Republican introduction of anti-trans legislation and, in general, those who hop on the trans disbelief and hate regardless of science and knowledge, they have a lot of support among detransitioners (although a low number). Nothing spurs fear and fury (and media blitz) more than young adults expressing how damaged they were by hopping on an "ideology" in a public school or online, or that they were misdiagnosed by a legit psychotherapist. Is it about not transitioning beyond "social" until one reach's adulthood? Is this even possible? (and would this supporting/protecting youth if we do?) I know I sound like I'd like to negotiate with the monsters, but I feel like the ultimate acceptance and visibility of trans people may require our "hand holding" our fragile kids through their youth and then allowing a full-on transition, no matter what this means to each individual. Get the haters off our backs. Of course, this still won't stop them from misgendering anyone on their passport. Baby steps? LOVE YOUR WORDS.
So well said. Chances are most of these transphobic, Republicans already know a trans person without actually knowing it. I have been married for 37 years, and at the 30 year mark, my husband came out as trans. For thirty years i lived with a angry alcohol addicted man̈ always searching for something to make him happy. When he finally figured it out, I found an amazing human being coming into her own. There was absolutely no doubt in my mind, her transitioning, was the most honest thing she ever did.
You are a loving partner. Although her coming out was likely hard, you have provided her (and yourself, and your children if you have any) the gift of a lifetime: truth and compassion. What a lightbulb moment re: the alcohol addiction! Re: the transphobes (no matter the political party), I pray often they will experience and be enlightened by a close family member's coming-out: An adored grandchild, niece or nephew, a sibling, wife or husband. And that they are rewarded by realizing the truth of this person as a human, and not merely someone who must fit into a neat, tidy gender box. And yes, that they feel shame attached to their public humiliation of people who are different, and who have suffered greatly, and ultimately come around to acceptance and get on with a compassionate life of acceptance.
Agree on all ends. I wish everyone who lived in America had at least one close, honest trans person in their lives (even better if they have loved them). The thing I admire most about my child's coming out as trans is how incredibly genuine and ethical it was. Our mutual respect heightened, and we were spared potential decades of not truly knowing one another (and for her alone, the agony of hiding/lying). On the unrelenting Republican introduction of anti-trans legislation and, in general, those who hop on the trans disbelief and hate regardless of science and knowledge, they have a lot of support among detransitioners (although a low number). Nothing spurs fear and fury (and media blitz) more than young adults expressing how damaged they were by hopping on an "ideology" in a public school or online, or that they were misdiagnosed by a legit psychotherapist. Is it about not transitioning beyond "social" until one reach's adulthood? Is this even possible? (and would this supporting/protecting youth if we do?) I know I sound like I'd like to negotiate with the monsters, but I feel like the ultimate acceptance and visibility of trans people may require our "hand holding" our fragile kids through their youth and then allowing a full-on transition, no matter what this means to each individual. Get the haters off our backs. Of course, this still won't stop them from misgendering anyone on their passport. Baby steps? LOVE YOUR WORDS.
So well said. Chances are most of these transphobic, Republicans already know a trans person without actually knowing it. I have been married for 37 years, and at the 30 year mark, my husband came out as trans. For thirty years i lived with a angry alcohol addicted man̈ always searching for something to make him happy. When he finally figured it out, I found an amazing human being coming into her own. There was absolutely no doubt in my mind, her transitioning, was the most honest thing she ever did.
You are a loving partner. Although her coming out was likely hard, you have provided her (and yourself, and your children if you have any) the gift of a lifetime: truth and compassion. What a lightbulb moment re: the alcohol addiction! Re: the transphobes (no matter the political party), I pray often they will experience and be enlightened by a close family member's coming-out: An adored grandchild, niece or nephew, a sibling, wife or husband. And that they are rewarded by realizing the truth of this person as a human, and not merely someone who must fit into a neat, tidy gender box. And yes, that they feel shame attached to their public humiliation of people who are different, and who have suffered greatly, and ultimately come around to acceptance and get on with a compassionate life of acceptance.