I saw so much of my own journey in this article (I was 44 when I figured it out). Thank you for this. I often regret not cracking my egg sooner but my rational mind knows that it would have destroyed me. I'm glad the younger generations have more knowledge than we did.
I saw so much of my own journey in this article (I was 44 when I figured it out). Thank you for this. I often regret not cracking my egg sooner but my rational mind knows that it would have destroyed me. I'm glad the younger generations have more knowledge than we did.
I may be reading too much into your choice of the word "regret", and if so please disregard the following, but it makes me worry. Please, don't blame yourself for however long it took you to realize.
It helps me to be mindful of the difference between regret and grief.
Regret is for things I had any choice over, and blew it. Grief is for things I had no choice over. I don't think any of us have any choice over when our eggs crack (Doc Impossible has a really good article on this: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/lets-fly), so to me it doesn't make any sense to regret not having cracked my egg sooner. That wasn't up to me. Which leaves regret feeling like victim-blaming.
But I can still grieve for the years I lost. There's value in grief. Grief is not fun, but it is a good thing. It helps you heal.
I saw so much of my own journey in this article (I was 44 when I figured it out). Thank you for this. I often regret not cracking my egg sooner but my rational mind knows that it would have destroyed me. I'm glad the younger generations have more knowledge than we did.
I may be reading too much into your choice of the word "regret", and if so please disregard the following, but it makes me worry. Please, don't blame yourself for however long it took you to realize.
It helps me to be mindful of the difference between regret and grief.
Regret is for things I had any choice over, and blew it. Grief is for things I had no choice over. I don't think any of us have any choice over when our eggs crack (Doc Impossible has a really good article on this: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/lets-fly), so to me it doesn't make any sense to regret not having cracked my egg sooner. That wasn't up to me. Which leaves regret feeling like victim-blaming.
But I can still grieve for the years I lost. There's value in grief. Grief is not fun, but it is a good thing. It helps you heal.