Thanks for sharing. I think a lot of us (and the people around us) struggle with this, and it is useful to break down why we use the words we choose to.
I appreciate this perspective. I also wonder if my tendency to think of myself back then as a boy is part of the reason I sometimes still feel odd or illegitimate thinking of myself now as a woman. I think I owe it to both of us (little me and now me) to appreciate my bravery and my survival, both before and after I finally realized who I really am.
As a fairly late in life trans but fresh cracked egg I have asked a question about this topic on reddit. I do my best to avoid misgendering myself and at times I find I speak in the third person, "When he was with you at the fair." It's not the most elegant and I am still struggling with pre-transition discussions. He is not me.
I frequently talk about myself pre and post transition and use appropriate language. More and more frequently I’ve been feeling a disconnect from my past as male because I always knew who I was. So it’s getting harder to keep using language that creates separation. So I’ve moved towards referring to myself in non gendered ways regarding my past unless I specifically need to do so.
Thanks for sharing. I think a lot of us (and the people around us) struggle with this, and it is useful to break down why we use the words we choose to.
I appreciate this perspective. I also wonder if my tendency to think of myself back then as a boy is part of the reason I sometimes still feel odd or illegitimate thinking of myself now as a woman. I think I owe it to both of us (little me and now me) to appreciate my bravery and my survival, both before and after I finally realized who I really am.
As a fairly late in life trans but fresh cracked egg I have asked a question about this topic on reddit. I do my best to avoid misgendering myself and at times I find I speak in the third person, "When he was with you at the fair." It's not the most elegant and I am still struggling with pre-transition discussions. He is not me.
I frequently talk about myself pre and post transition and use appropriate language. More and more frequently I’ve been feeling a disconnect from my past as male because I always knew who I was. So it’s getting harder to keep using language that creates separation. So I’ve moved towards referring to myself in non gendered ways regarding my past unless I specifically need to do so.